Embracing Self-Worth as a Chronic Boss

Written by Amanda Griffith, Media Relations Consultant, Arbonne Independent Consultant, and Storyteller

I’m a 47-year-old wife, mom, entrepreneur, consultant, and a Chronic Boss Collective member. But it wasn’t easy for me to join the Collective.

For a while, I was too scared, too self-conscious, too intimidated. Then I thought, “Maybe others feel the same way,” and I found my voice and strength that spoke to me. Now that I have joined the Chronic Boss Collective, I am so happy with my decision.

These are some things I’ve learned along the way as a woman in business on my journey to embrace self-worth.

Showing Up For Myself

I’ve worked in network marketing several times over the years and I have such anxiety that I utilized my consulting roles more as a discount for myself than growing a business for myself. Why did I do this to myself, though? I’m not sure, to be honest. I think I was trying to fill a gap, working to place the missing piece in my puzzle in a way that filled my bucket.

Since becoming a consultant with Arbonne, I truly believe there’s something more here for me. I feel it. I see the door opening. I see a new avenue full of personal growth. I just need to let go of the imposter syndrome, the fear of not being enough, the worries about falling on my face. 

I joined this business because my gut told me to. I wanted to push myself out of my comfort zone, without the stress of the need to succeed. I viewed it as the next page in a chapter of discovering my strengths, learning how to nurture myself from within, trusting other women, and telling stories – a huge passion of mine. 

I’m so glad that I have finally decided to overcome the fear and anxiety and show up for myself in business.

Overcoming Imposter Syndrome

It hasn’t always been easy for me to show up confidently in business and in groups like the Chronic Boss Collective. For one reason, I have always been an open, honest, and transparent person. I used to view that as a weakness – and have been judged harshly for it – but I now view it as my superpower. I encourage you to identify your superpowers and own them wholeheartedly.

I’ve learned that I have so much potential, that I don’t need to be afraid of being judged, and that when I meet my people – like the Chronic Boss Collective members – I’ll know.

I want to encourage other women struggling to feel like they are enough with three reminders:

Know you aren’t alone. So many others feel the exact same way.

You are making a difference.

I see you and I’m proud of you for staying true to you. I know it’s not easy.

Embracing Self-Worth

As I’ve been on this journey of embracing self-worth, one place I’ve turned to is books. Within these pages, I’ve found inspiration, hope, and strength through unexpected lessons and words that spoke to my soul.

I want to pass on advice that I’ve gathered from three books that have helped me balance chronic illness with being an entrepreneur, mother, wife, and storyteller – and that I hope will help you too

Worthy by Jamie Kern Lima

“Self-worth is your foundation. Self-confidence is the house you build on top of it. Your house will only ever be as secure as the foundation it’s built upon.” (Jamie Kern Lima)

Protect Your Peace by Trent Shelton

“I believe many of us struggle with setting boundaries because we worry too much about what other people think. Worry and guilt are first cousins – worry is the reason why people don’t set boundaries; guilt is the reason people don’t stand firm on them. Our ideas about self-worth more often come from how others see us than from how we see ourselves. Sad but true.” (Trent Shelton)

The High Five Habit by Mel Robbins 

“If you know what’s important to you, you can train your RAS [reticular activating system] to filter the world every day…Let the power of that sink in for a moment. You can teach your mind to find the things you WANT to see, things that elevate and support you, that make you feel happier and proud, things that lead you to your dreams.” (Mel Robbins)

After taking part in Mel Robbins’ High Five Challenge for five days, I learned to look into my eyes in the mirror, see the true me, and say, “Amanda, you are ok. Amanda, you are safe. Amanda, you are loved.” 

I’m slowly learning to believe it. I see it in you too. You’re doing great. 

Love,

Amanda

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